Actually, it’s no secret at all. Man’s primary sex organ is our eyes – and today’s marketing firms and retail outlets know it full well. We are instinctively attracted to beauty – and not just female beauty. We love being outdoors, fishing, hiking, camping, hunting, biking – because we are drawn to God’s beauty in creation. The cool, crisp Fall air. The sight of mallards cupping to land in your hunting hole. A beautiful rainbow trout on the end of your line. Mountains, beaches, rivers, etc., – these are things of beauty. Something deep in our masculine soul shouts “Yes!” when we experience things like these.
Trouble is – one of the most beautiful things God ever created is called “woman”. When Adam laid eyes on her, he exclaimed “WOW”. I am sure Eve was the most beautiful creature he had ever seen – and he had seen them all. Ever since, man has been magnetically attracted to beautiful women. It truly is in our DNA to look. Our wives don’t really understand because their DNA isn’t like that. They notice attractive men, but they are not as tempted to linger as we are, and there in is the potential problem.
It’s not the looking that is the problem, it’s the lingering, the pondering, the imagining that entices us. Remember what James tells us in James 1:14-15 – But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.
Looking is not the temptation. Looking is not the sin. It is actually possible for a man to look upon a beautiful woman and say “wow, she is beautiful” and not sin at all.
The danger is what happens in our mind. See the words in the above verse – lured, enticed by his own desire. If we are not walking in the Spirit, and actively taking our thoughts captive to the obedience of Christ, we will not be able to withstand the enemy’s luring, justifying voice of temptation. It is our mind that is the primary battlefield for this, and all other, spiritual battles. That is why it is critical for all of us to constantly renew our minds with the Word, and actively practice taking our thoughts captive.
The Word tells us very plainly and emphatically – “Above ALL else, guard your heart (mind)”. Above all else is a pretty bold statement. In Romans 12:2 we are instructed to be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Hebrews 4:12 reminds us that God’s Word judges the thoughts and attitudes of our heart (mind). The way to freedom over lust and sexual temptation is to do just that. We must marinate our minds in God’s Word every single day. We have to know what He says and what He offers us in order to even be willing to take our thoughts captive.
If you are being lured away by looking, or lingering….. the Bible is very clear – flee.
Don’t think, just run. Turn away and run to the Word. Guard your heart.
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