Handle with Care

1 Peter 3:7 – You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.

Guys, take notice that this verse is NOT a holy suggestion from God that we should casually consider. This is a command, and our choice to blow it off will have serious consequences….see the last eight words. If we read this and choose not to live this way in our marriage – our prayers to God WILL be hindered. So what does “hindered” really mean? Greek and English definitions gives us words like –interrupt, impede, frustrate, eliminate or to do away with.

None of these are acceptable options if we have thoughts of ever praying again, and desiring God’s answer. None of us wants our prayers to be “cut off”, or “eliminated”. So, what’s a fella to do?

 We must keep in mind that the woman we are married to is a personal gift from God Himself. She is also His precious child – His beloved daughter. Do you remember meeting your wife’s dad for the first time, or interviewing that scruffy teenager who wanted to go out with your daughter? Fathers care about the welfare of their daughters. God especially cares about His daughters welfare, and expects husbands to treat them with proper respect and appreciation.

The word used for “weaker” vessel actually refers to weak, as in fine china is weak. It is frail because it is so preciously made and highly valuable. When you hold a newborn baby, or carry a large bank deposit to the bank for your boss, you are more highly aware of the need to be careful and responsible. I remember vividly driving my car full of young boys to baseball tournaments, or the family van full of precious people on vacation. Every single time I was acutely aware of the responsibility on my shoulders to stay alert and careful.

That is what God is asking of each of us when it comes to caring for His daughter. He demands that we treat her with the utmost respect and care, and be personally accountable to Him for her welfare.

The question that must be asked of each of us is – how are we doing? How would our wife say we are doing? How would God say we are doing?

We are “husbands” – shepherds, guardians, stewards, protectors – of our wives. We cannot afford to fall asleep at the wheel without serious consequences. A good marriage won’t just happen. It takes continual effort on our part to be the leader, protector and provider we are called to be. We need to memorize this verse and ask God to show us every day how to better “understand” our wife, and treat her in such a way as to make Him proud.

Read marriage and relationship books. Pray for and with her. She is a fellow heir and worthy of our praise, encouragement, appreciation, understanding and love. Let’s do a better job of showing her (and her Dad).

Keep it up guys,



About Rob

Married to my high school sweetheart for 40 years. Blessed to be a frequent speaker at marriage and men's conferences, retreats and seminars. Author of 4 books on marriage. Check out resources at allinmariage.org.

3 responses to “Handle with Care

  1. LOVE the blog! Need to get my hubby to read it!

  2. Evan Pederson

    Definitely a great reminder. I included a reference to this verse in my part of our marriage vows, a promise to “live with her in an understanding way.” Easier said than done sometimes, but completely worth it, even aside from knowing that it’s commanded by God.

  3. Stu Gray

    Huz –

    This is a great post and reminder! Thanks for the encouragement…


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