Genesis 2:18 – The Lord  God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

Read that again and this time put your name in the place of “man” and “him”. Our all-knowing, all-gracious Father declared that it was “not good” for us to be alone. If you are reading this and are married – then that means you. God decided it was not a good thing for you to be alone – so He did something to help you. Something He determined would be great for you – just what you need – because He loves you and has a fabulous plan for your life.

So, he made her. That woman you live with. Yes, her.

Out of all the women on the planet, He decided that she was the most ‘suitable’ for you. Perfect? No. Just the most suitable according to God’s definition.

One thing that serves to help us through rough spots in our relationship is thankfulness. God tells us “in” everything give thanks. He doesn’t say “for” everything. No matter what we are feeling or not feeling in our marriage right now, we can be thankful. Thank Him for His unconditional love, His total and complete forgiveness, His personal provision in our wife, and His “good plans” that He has for us.

He is a good God, a wonderful and loving Father Who will never do anything in your life that is not in your best interest.

Our wife is a deliberate and personal gift from Father to us. How often do we show our appreciation to Him for loving us that much? How often do we treat His hand-crafted and precious daughter as His most prized possession?

God gave us the wife we have, because He loves us and He knows she is the perfect “helper/completer” for us. Let’s spend some time thanking Him for His wonderful gift, and see if our view of her changes in the process.

James 1:17 – Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above



About Rob

Married to my high school sweetheart for 40 years. Blessed to be a frequent speaker at marriage and men's conferences, retreats and seminars. Author of 4 books on marriage. Check out resources at

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