Has she become the wife that you deserve yet? Is she finally worthy of your love and respect?
What is taking her so long? She expects you to be the leader, to show her love and affection and help her around the house – but look at her. Where’s the love, respect and domestic support you need? Maybe when she starts getting her act together, you might decide to dole out a little affection, some nice words and even take some time to listen to her carry on about her day.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard a husband use this same language to justify the way he is treating his wife. When she, or If she, or But she – are typically the first words out of their mouths. Trouble is, none of these excuses is acceptable in God’s eyes. There is not one single verse that tell us to love our wife WHEN she starts treating you the way you want, or IF she begins to respect and honor you. God says over and over in His Word to love each other “like Christ” loves. Husbands are commanded by God to love our wives “as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her”.
This kind of love is unconditional. It doesn’t wait for her to get her act together, or to show you more respect or affection. There are no exceptions that I can find for the guy who says, “BUT she……”.
Man’s expectations, and God’s expectations are quite different.
We all know this, but one day we will be held accountable for our leadership and performance as a husband (lover,steward, shepherd – of our wife and home). Somehow I don’t think excuses like: “But she…”, or “She never…”, or anything like them, will go over very well.
Initiate. Engage. Be the First. Choose. Model. Love. Lead.
Don’t Wait Any Longer,