Husbands Need Sex – Part 2

In our last post we talked about our emotional needs regarding sex. Let’s recap some of the info that was posted back in February, but needs to be re-shared with our larger following of husbands.

Many research studies have shown that  the act of sex has many amazing, and beneficial effects. These effects are both physical and emotional, and are greatly beneficial to our relationship.

While there are more than we can cover in one post, I will highlight five key benefits:

1. Better Mental Health – hormones released during sex and orgasm actually make you feel better, about yourself, your relationship and about life – they also fight certain causes of depression and anxiety.

2. Pain Relief – we have all heard the old saying, “not tonight honey, I have a headache”. Studies show that immediately before orgasm, levels of the hormone oxytocin surge to five times their normal level. This in turn releases endorphins, which alleviate the pain of everything from headache to arthritis to even migraine. In women, sex also prompts production of estrogen, which can reduce the pain of PMS.

3. Boosts Your Immune System – Wilkes University in Pennsylvania says individuals who have sex once or twice a week show 30% higher levels of an antibody called immunoglobulin A, which is known to boost the immune system. Forget vitamin C supplements – go have sex!

4. Better Heart Health – we all concerned about keeping our heart strong and fighting heart disease. Sex, if nothing else, is exercise. A vigorous session burns some 200 calories–about the same as running 15 minutes on a treadmill or playing a spirited game of racquetball. The pulse rate, in a person aroused, rises from about 70 beats per minute to 150, the same as that of an athlete putting forth maximum effort. Queens University in Belfast tracked the mortality of about 1,000 middle-aged men over the course of a decade. The study was designed to compare persons of comparable circumstances, age and health. Its findings, published in 1997 in the British Medical Journal, were that men who reported the highest frequency of orgasm enjoyed a death rate half that of the laggards.

5. Better Relationship with Your Wife – a satisfied husband is much more likely to focus on the needs of his wife. The longer we go without achieving sexual satisfaction, the more prone we are to becoming resentful, selfish and even vindictive. We all know that the longer we go without sexual release, the more prone we are to look at women inappropriately, or to linger a little longer on a sexual image we see on TV, or wherever.

We need to be more deliberate about our sex life. Set aside time for sex. We all set aside time to watch our favorite reality tv show, or to work on the hobby of our choosing. The mental, emotional and physical benefits of regular and frequent sex are much more rewarding – and enjoyable!

OBVIOUSLY – our wife’s opinion of all this is pretty critical. We can’t just announce that “Wednesday is going to be sex night”, and not expect any repercussions. Next post (or two) we will share some research and some thoughts for our wives…. be ready to share the blog with her…. you may be glad you do…. :-0

Huz

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About Rob

Married to my high school sweetheart for 40 years. Blessed to be a frequent speaker at marriage and men's conferences, retreats and seminars. Author of 4 books on marriage. Check out resources at allinmariage.org.

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