The Perfect Gift


There’s nothing more fun that finding that “perfect gift” for your wife on that special occasion. And, what wife would not be thrilled out of her head to get her own pair of colorful, comfortable, stylish airpants. Yes, you will both be the talk of the beach, or neighborhood pool – trust me.

If you missed the airpants craze  a few decades ago don’t fret. There are other gifts that will make your wife feel just about as special.

Kidding aside, I wanted to encourage you to give your wife the one gift she desires most – YOU. What she really wants, in her heart of hearts, is your presence, your time, and your attention. It’s not enough to be in the room but reading the paper, or watching your favorite reality show. She would love to have your undistracted presence. Emotional presence is different that physical presence.

I want to encourage all of us to set aside some time – even 15 minutes – and really engage our wife. Look into her eyes. Ask her about her day. Listen to what she is saying when she talks about work, or the kids, or what she is concerned about. Don’t try to fix it. Don’t try to figure it out. Just listen. Respond to her questions with better words than “fine” and  “good” .

God commands us to live with our wife “in an understanding way”. How can we understand if we never engage, and how can we engage if we never set aside real time to do so? Let’s put our agendas and selfish ways aside for a few minutes this weekend and spend a little face to face time with our wife. Let’s be deliberate about loving her by giving her a very precious gift – ourselves. She was created to be by our side, to be our helpmeet, our closest friend and companion. She longs to be with you…………….. Give it a try, and see what God does in your relationship..



About Rob

Married to my high school sweetheart for 40 years. Blessed to be a frequent speaker at marriage and men's conferences, retreats and seminars. Author of 4 books on marriage. Check out resources at

One response to “The Perfect Gift

  1. Jon

    Thanks for the reminder. It’s easy to be physically present but mentally somewhere else.

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